The Smart Dater’s way of accomplishing goals.

By now, you probably have a list
of things that you would like to accomplish
in 2008, such as “I would like to get a
girlfriend” or “I would like to become
better with women.”

And guess what?

Chances are, you will probably have
forgotten these goals by February.

Don’t believe me? Well, ask yourself
the following question:

How many times have you looked back
on the previous year and found you never
reached last years resolution?

In fact, how many times have you
REMEMBERED last year’s resolution without
looking at the sheet of paper?

It’s sick, isn’t it?

So how do you get around that? How
do you actually make your resolutions come
true?

Lots of self-help books will tell
you to make up complicated plans to break
down your resolutions into mini-goals and
to use various exercises to motivate
yourself.

I don’t agree with these methods.

In my experience, there is only
one thing you need to do to make your
resolutions come true:

Write down your goals on a piece
of paper that you stick somewhere you
can see, and then just do ANYTHING to be
one-step closer to one of your goals
every day.

Why? Because it will force you
to incorporate your goals into your
lifestyle. This is important, because in
the real world, LIFESTYLE HABITS create
success.

Here are some examples:

- Training is a part of an athlete’s
lifestyle.

- Studying is a part of a good
student’s lifestyle.

- Going out and meeting people is
part of a Smart Dater’s lifestyle.

- Flirting with women is part
of a Smart Dater’s lifestyle.

If someone is unwilling to change
his lifestyle so that he can go out and
expand his social circle and improve his
flirting skills, no matter how many goals
he writes down, he is not going to see
any success a year from now.

So instead of worrying about the
end results, I want you to focus on
the PROCESS.

Get it?

Here is an exercise for you to try:

For each new year resolution you
have, write down five to ten things you
can start doing this week to bring you
just a tiny step closer to your goals.
Here are some examples:

1) Talk to one stranger.

2) Flirt with one stranger.

3) Workout at the gym.

4) Compliment and then tease a
stranger.

5) Call up a friend you haven’t
seen for awhile.

6) Try just one technique from
Marius.

7) Make eye contact and smile
at a stranger.

Plan a house party.

And so on…

Once you have a list of couple
dozen items (assuming you have a few
goals), print it out and pick one or two
things to do each morning.

If you follow this plan and do
something each and every day to move
forward, all the time and energy (even
just a few minutes a day) will add up,
and one day you will find yourself with
more success than most people.

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