If I could have ten dollars for every
client who told me their case was somehow “different”
or “special”, I would be a rich, rich man. As humans,
we have the tendency to pick out the differences
instead of seeing the similarities. It’s just how
our brains work. But if you want success, you
need to look at the common recurring patterns
in the world around you and see how they apply
to YOUR life.

Here’s a little example. Imagine one of
your female friends is going out with a chronic
liar and gambler. Every week, she sobs on the
phone and tells you all about the drama she
is going through.

To her, her case is probably too
“special” and “unique” for any relationship
book out there. But to you, you just think
she’s one of the many women who have fallen
for the wrong man. At the end of the day,
any experienced relationship coach can reduce
her whole case into one short little paragraph
and tell her what’s probably going to happen
to her relationship in the future based on
similar cases they have worked on in the
past. (I do it all the time!) And if she
refuses to listen to the advice, she may
one day turn into a statistic along the
hundreds, thousands, of even millions of
relationships that fail for similar reasons
every year. How’s that for uniqueness?

The same with guys who think they
are “special” because of whatever
insecurities they have. Guys always think
they are unique when they write me and say,
“Marius, you don’t understand…flirting
simply does not work for me because I…”

And guess what? I always have a
solution.

To this date (and that’s after
seven years of coaching men and women
in the dating game), I have yet to work
on a case where I cannot reduce it to
a simple explanation.

In every field or activity, you can
find patterns of success and failure. Dating
is no different. Everything can be reduced
to a set of rules and suggested actions.
Just like knowing how to swing your golf
club properly will not ruin your enjoyment
of the game, knowing these relationship
rules will not make dating or marriage any
less exciting for you.

And this is when my “Smart Dating
Course” and “Smart Relationships Course”
come in. They can really improve your
success in both areas by showing you
the “patterns” and “rules” that I have
realized over the years.

Don’t know how to approach a woman?

Guess what? It can be reduced to
simple steps and rules.

Want to get a phone number and
a date?

Guess what? It can be reduced to
simple steps and rules.

Want to know how to flirt, how
to tease, and how to make a woman laugh
so much she can’t help but fall for you?

You got it. It can also be reduced
to simple steps and rules.

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