What If Your Parents Have Ruined Your Game
One of the most common excuses I hear from my readers
is that they are not good with women because of their childhood
or past. Here are some of the excuses I’ve heard:
“I used to be good but my divorce has devastated me.”
“My mom has raised me to be polite around women.” (So?)
“I was a nerd back in high school…”
“I was not raised to be masculine.”
“Years of rejection have made me give up any hope.”
These men like to ask me for advice on how to overcome
their childhood or past problems so that they can become successful
with women.
Here is what I like to tell them:
You never overcome anything. You move on.
Listen. You cannot make your history go away. A part of
your history will always be a part of you. There’s no use to
blame anyone (including yourself) or to burden yourself with shame,
guilt, or remorse. There is no way to go back in time and fix
anything. What’s done is done. Move on.
If you choose to let go and dismiss the bad things
that have happened to you in the past, then you will be able
to look to the future and improve yourself. Your past circumstances
or mistakes will then just become old news.
As Carl Jung said, “People do not solve their
psychological problems, in my experience. They outgrow them.”
How about you? Are you willing to outgrow your past
problems?
If you want real power, you must learn to let go
of your past, period!
Really think hard about this.
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