In my opinion, one of the stupidest questions
a man (or woman) can ask at the beginning of a relationship
is “Where is this relationship going?”

9 out of 10 times, it will take things to a
REALLY bad direction.

Why? Because it puts unnecessary pressure on the
person you are asking. You are basically forcing
the people to say “yes” to a relationship and regretting
it later. (Remember: Nobody likes to be forced. Even if
they like you, their attraction will drop if they feel like
they have been forced to do something.)

Or even worse, if the person is assertive, they
will probably say something like, “I am not ready yet.
Let’s just be friends for now.”

As I always say, if two people are attracted to
each other and they are compatible without much character
flaws, chances are they are going to end up in a relationship
provided there aren’t too many negative forces in play.
Asking or trying to push for a relationship won’t
help. Instead, it will make you desperate.

Here’s the bottom line: If a relationship is going to
happen, it will happen naturally. If it won’t happen, then
no matter how many times you ask or how much you push,
it just ain’t going to happen!

The ONLY time you should use this question is if you
have been “dating” for months but it feels like the person
you are with is just playing you and you do not wish to waste
any more time. In that case, you should not be afraid to
pop the question, and you should be ready to cut all ties
and move on if you do not like the answer.

The same thing also applies to existing relationships.
If you feel things are doing down the hill with your
relationships, don’t ask “So where is this relationship going?”
unless you are ready to break up. Instead, take action to
fix the issues. If the chemistry is dying, then bring back
the spark using what you have learned from my “Smart
Relationships Course”. If you feel like your partner is taking
you for granted, then pull back so you are more of a challenge.
If you feel like you are having communication problems,
then work on that WITHOUT asking where the relationship is
going.

The only time you should pop the “Where is this
relationship going” question is when things are so bad that
you want to save it one LAST time before you are out the
door!

Tags: 9 out of 10, bad direction, bottom line, character flaws, chemistry, relationship, relationships, ties

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